A personal blog...

...chronicling the dementia adventures of...

...Girl and

The Other Girl...

...sharing hilarious and 

heartbreaking moments

of life...


...with our mom who has vascular dementia.


The village makes the difference.

There are times in this dementia journey that if Jeffrey Dahmer were to show up at the door and offer to watch Mom for a couple of hours, I would grab my hat and coat and flee for freedom hollering back, "Now, you promise not to eat her, Jeffrey? You promise?" But I doubt I would hang around for the answer. A caregiver alone is a caregiver in the isolation zone, and that's the worst part of the job. Last April I wrote that It takes a village... to help someone to the end of their lives, and how we went about building ours. The last two weekends have been an exercise in why a dementia village is crucial to caregivers - as Monsterland descended on Stumped Town Dementia, our villagers, sans pit

Welcome to Monsterland, everybody.

Since Christmas things have gone south, and then souther. Happy days have made a beeline for the borders of Stumped Town Dementia as of late. It started Christmas Eve with a rift in the foundation of the partnership The Other Girl and I have painstakingly constructed over the last two and a half years. Yes, we've got each other's backs, but we're still sisters, and when not careful we can easily revert to behaving like two pissy pre-teens accusing each other of bitchcraft while the town looks on in horror. What can I say? Dementia can pull families together and pull them apart. Over the holidays we succumbed to the latter and after two weeks of passive aggressive silence we (finally) decided

Stumped Town Dementia

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